There are a lot of people in the world today that would tell you the BEST way to do something, or how you’re doing something WRONG. It goes across the board from gardening to celebrating holidays to parenting. Judgment of differences and needing to feel RIGHT – and instilling what you do onto others around you.
Here’s the thing, if we all did things the same way the world would be SO BORING! And when something didn’t work for someone else, there would be no other options. Talk about hopelessness. Instead, having variety among our friends and neighbors allows us to say, “Hey, I’m having trouble with this thing. What has worked well for you that I could try?”
Many people out there would rather make you believe there’s something wrong with you or you aren’t doing something right if their “perfect” way doesn’t work for you. But, why would you think it would? You aren’t that person, having that person’s experience, at this moment in time. And even if parts of their way work for you now, it doesn’t mean they will in 10 years or next month or even later today. We are all growing and changing and our way of doing things needs to grow and change with us. Sometimes, learning a new way of doing things is the catalyst for the growth. Always, the growth cannot happen without doing things differently. Same action = same result. Different action = different result. Simple.
Your action steps:
Think of a few tasks or activities you do regularly and ask yourself
- Why do you do them that way? Did someone else tell you to do it that way or did you complete several rounds of trial and error to discover what works best for you?
- What about them is not working for you any more? HINT: if you’re reading this, it’s because you know something isn’t working anymore and you’re here to change it. Pinpoint exactly what’s holding you back.
- What is one new thing you can try to make it work better? Or, who could you ask for a recommendation?
If you raise children you know that what worked yesterday – or even five minutes ago – might not work in this moment because kids are learning and growing so fast. You are also ever-changing and your modus operandi need to evolve too. So, instead of judging others (let’s be honest that’s all about how we perceive ourselves anyway), let’s embrace variety and SUPPORT each other. We are all different humans having different experiences and need an abundance of tools and resources to maneuver through life.