Let’s talk about shame. Does reading that word leave a greasy, heavy feeling in your stomach? Try saying it out loud. Is there a metallic taste in your mouth? It’s not the most pleasant thing, shame. It seems to have a lot of power over us.
We hide who we really are. We hide our “secrets” so that people don’t run away from us or ridicule us. And here is the worst part: the more we keep hidden away, and the longer it stays in the dark, the more shame we feel.
Guess what! Saying it out loud – that thing or things you are hiding out of fear and shame – will lessen or even take away the shame. Voicing it will take away the power of that shame. It will empower you to feel more whole, lighter.
And, most likely, that secret thing you were ashamed of was not anything to be ashamed of. But, we let the fear of rejection stop us from shining out in our unique brilliance. If the people who surround you truly care about you, they want to see you shine. Stop projecting negative reactions on your people; it’s not fair to them. If the people around you want to hold you back, you need different people.
By saying it out loud, you become the master of your life. Shame loses its control over you. Even if it is something embarrassing, let it out to let it go. Voice it and release it. If it’s a part of you that shows your unique gifts to the world, embrace it. Find ways to use it. Find people to encourage you, leave the nay-sayers in your dust. Be a light. We need more light in this world. We need your light in this world.
P.S. Find one person you trust to share your secret with today (remember, waiting makes it worse). How do you feel after voicing it? Share in the comments.